We dislike some people some times and some people all times. Why do we dislike anyone? Because he or she has done something wrong. It may be a mistake or a deliberate wrongdoing. If the person is close to us, the feeling of dislike will not last long. .If the person is not close to us, the feeling of dislike may last long.
Why does this happen?
This happens because we mistake the person for the action. (So, we also make a mistake in the process!) If an action hurts you, inconveniences you or makes you disgusted, you may be justified in disliking that action. Let's say you are hit by a vehicle when you're walking on the road. You're hurt. You have a reason to dislike what has happened. What you should dislike is the negligence of the person driving the car. But we dislike the person. This is wrong and irrational because you dislike a person based on just one thing he or she does. There may be several other things that the person does that you may like.
So, learn to differentiate between an act and the person. Only actions cause you inconvenience or trouble not persons.
It is difficult to cultivate this attitude but you can keep trying. You will find that after a while, you become more objective in judging events and people.
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