Friday, March 21, 2014

Urgently needed

Today, I would like to reproduce an interesting message I received from my good friend Siva
Not Blood,


An ELECTRICIAN, to Restore the Current between People,
Who do not Speak to Each Other Any more.

An OPTICIAN, to Change the Outlook of People.

An ARTIST, to Draw a Smile on Everyone's Face.

to Build a Bridge between Neighbours.

to Cultivate Good Thoughts.


Last But Not The Least
for All of Us to Relearn How to Count on Each Other....


Just think which of the above positions you can fit into. i am sure you can fit into more than one, if not all!

Monday, March 17, 2014

Have You ever Been Inside A Prison?

What a question! Do you feel offended? I am sorry, I didn't intend to. The idea of bringing in the prison is to drive home a point> You know about prisons at various places. They are all outside you. But do you know there is a prison inside you? Yes, there is one in your mind. And do you know who is inside it? Who is imprisoned in the prison in your mind? You!

How is it possible? How can you be inside something that is inside you? As per the laws of Physics, you can't be. But in reality you can be? Don't you sometimes feel that you are unable to do something that you would like to. Your hands are free but you feel that they are tied. You feel that something or someone is holding you back. This means that you are not free. Not being free is the same as being in a prison.

There are several layers of prisons in your mind at different layers. You may be inside one sometimes. You can also be inside more than one prison at a time. However, most of us are bound inside a particular prison. This prison is the fear about what others would think if you do a particular thing. It is because you are inside this prison that often you are unable to do things which you would like to or which you ought to. Of course, it's in your hands to free yourself from this prison. the key to open these prison doors is a strong desire to free yourself from this fear.

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think.  - David Icke

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Are You Thankful?

Are you thankful?

Don't be offended by this question. I know you are a thankful person. But I would like you to ponder over how thankful you are. There are a lot of things to be thankful for but most of us choose to be thankful only occasionally.

Being thankful is not about having the courtesy to thank people who render you some service, whether he is your office assistant or a restaurant waiter. This kind of thanking, though valuable, has become so routine that we do it mechanically without even being consciously aware of our doing it. I am referring about the occasions where we need to thank people who have helped us either directly or indirectly. often, we take this kind of help granted and move on without stopping to thank the person. For example, if you are looking for a lawyer who can advise you on a particular issue and someone suggests one. You go to that lawyer and find that he is really good. Will you make it a point to thank your friend for suggesting him. In many cases, your friend might have suggested a name in a casual manner and might have forgotten it. But when you have benefited from his suggestion, should you not make it a point to convey your thanks to him.

If you think about it, you will have a lot of people to be thankful for various things. Make it a habit to express your thankfulness to all those to whom you owe it.

The more you are thankful, the more you attract things to be thankful for.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Two Types of Motivation

Nothing succeeds like success, they say. If you succeed once, you find that succeeding again is easier. This is because success is a great motivator. Success creates immense confidence you. 'You have made it once. So, you can make it again and you can make it any number of times' is the message subconsciously generated at a time you achieve success. Since confidence is a powerful driving force, you will find it easier to accomplish more.

The reverse happens when you fail. Failure erodes your confidence and intensifies your fears. You will be liable to think that you will fail again. So, when you try to do the same thing again or a new thing, the fear of failure can trip your chances of success. A repeat failure will intensify the fear of failure and will create a failure syndrome.

So, how do we react to failure? The most common way people react to failure is to avoid trying. If I don't try, I can't fail. Therefore not trying and thus avoiding failure seems better than trying and failing. Thus failure also motivates people in a negative way. It motivates you to avoid doing things that you fear. You will be surprised to know that a large number of people give up their efforts to learn driving a scooter if they fall down once. Same is the case with car driving. They rationalize their avoidance by inventing reasons like it is cheaper to hire a cab whenever you need than to own a car.

People take a lot of care to avoid doing the things they fear. A student who fails in a test once will invent reasons for not taking up the test again. People will send money and keep themselves far away to avoid a public speaking obligation. Well, you can find out examples from your own life about the occasions when  you have avoided failure.

So there is a success motivation and a failure avoidance motivation, the latter being much stronger than the former!

Monday, March 3, 2014

Simple truths

Do you often say you are busy? It is okay if you say this to avoid people. But if you are really find that you are too busy to attend to several important things, then there may be something wrong with your life. If you are busy and being busy keeps from doing things you have to do, it means that you are not free. You have mortgaged your freedom by making your time available to do what you want to do. Rethink your priorities and see what you can do make you more free. You will most probably find that you have unnecessarily tied up your time for things that are not important. 

Please remember:

When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free.When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow. will. never come.

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Who Are You?

Don't worry. I am not going to make a foray into philosophy.

'Who are you?' is a question which you face sometimes. The answer will define your identity. You can answer this question in various ways. You can just give your name, your profession or some other identity about you like 'I am Jane's brother.'

But a complete answer to this question requires that you understand for yourself what you are and what you are capable of. You are a sum of all your thoughts, words and deeds, the three components that determine your personality. Whatever answer you would like to give the person who poses this question, you should have for yourself as complete an answer as you could muster.

The only way you can find out more about you is by doing things and evaluating yourself on the basis of your actions. People  with a low opinion of themselves have been astonished by the things they could accomplish by choosing to act. And some people who have overrated themselves have discovered to their dismay their limitations when they ventured to do something. This does not mean that these people have become weak. It only means that they have become disillusioned and have got a realistic appraisal of their abilities. In the former case, people have become more empowered after discussing their latent capabilities.

So set out to do things. Action will always make you wiser.

Do you want to know who you are? 
Don't ask. 
Action will delineate and define you.
                                                                  -Thomas Jefferson